What is Marriage or Relationship Coaching?
Have you been through marriage counseling without any real change?
Are you ready to take a different approach?
Marriage Coaching can help. While counseling is beneficial in many cases, Coaching produces action, and action produces change. As every session includes action steps, progress is inevitable. Marriage Coaching can take you from where you are in your marriage to where you would like to be. Remember, 96.5% of Life Coaching clients are successful in reaching their initial coachable goal!
You may be stuck in a certain area of your marriage. It would be easier to throw in the towel…yet you may feel that is the last resort. Ask yourself this question: “If things continue as they are now, where would I be in 5 years?” If you are uncomfortable with that answer, it may be time to make some progress; it may be time to partner with one of our Marriage and Relationship Coaches.
One primary reason Marriage Coaching is a successful avenue of help to marriages is found in the fact that coaching is about taking responsibility for one’s own part of the solution. Often times, one person in the relationship simply isn’t willing to make change. Marriage Coaching can help you to respond in the most appropriate way possible. Marriage Coaching is not therapy but helps couples get unstuck through relationship education, learning healthy relationship skills such as confiding, communication and problems solving skills, and by having experienced successful married individuals and couples teach from their years of marriage experience, mistakes, and training.
As you apply the skills taught in Marriage Coaching, you begin to respond differently, you will find the patterns and habits in your marriage begin to change. Often couples find it helpful to have a weekly individual session as well as a monthly call with husband, wife, and coach. Marriage Coaching develops a plan that is unique to your marriage. The goal is to help both you and your spouse come to a place of taking responsibility for what can be done to make progress. As both you and your spouse take action, change is inevitable!
What is the difference between coaching and counseling?
Most young couples will not talk to their parents but need someone whom they can open up to about their marital struggles.
The name "coaching" uses a metaphor from the sports community, where coaching is an established activity. No team of athletes would consider trying to reach excellence without a coach. In being coached, one does not have to admit either to needing help or even to having a problem, so the shame-based feelings often triggered by counseling are by-passed. It is no disgrace to have a coach, when even Brett Fahre has had them.
The Coaching field developed out of the need for those in business to develop themselves and their organizations. Life Coaches have helped thousands of people across our country in developing themselves personally and professionally. Accordingly, there are many who have had long-term successful marriages. These “marriage professionals” can impart into other couples the skills and experiences that have made them successful in their relationships. Thus, relationship and marriage coaches assist couples in developing a healthy, strong, vibrant relationship and marriage.
Psychotherapy tends to focus on issues of pathology, healing and unresolved psychological issues of the past. Coaching, however, begins with the present and assists clients in setting very clear and specific goals that they want to achieve in the future. While the past may be discussed on occasion, it is addressed only in the context of discovering what is blocking the client from moving forward and developing the close and connected relationship they seek. The focus is always on movement and taking action, not necessarily on insight or understanding.
Counselors/Therapists work more from a solution focused or more systemic end of the therapy spectrum. The word "therapy" conjures up the notion that someone is in need of help or a cure. Coaching clients choose to work with a coach because they want to, not because they need to.
Coaches, as contrasted to counselors, are not seen as experts. Rather, they are seen more as a person with a set of skills they use to support people to achieve goals. A coach can be seen more like a partner or buddy that you check in with from week to week to review your progress, vision for the future and set new goals.
What does the marriage coaching process consist of?
In our marriage coaching, we ask that a couple meet with us once a week for the first 6 weeks and we re-evaluate the status of their marriage at that time. Some issues can be resolved in a few sessions, while others may take longer. Each session lasts approximately 50 minutes.
Who can use a Relationship or Marriage Coach?
Relationship coaching can be used for a variety of reasons. Some of these are listed below:
* Dating or Engagement
* Marriage Enrichment
* Crisis Marriage